The past couple of years have been years of change and upheaval for me and my kids. I am a single divorced mom who works hard to make sure that my kids have everything they need and most of what they want. Life isn’t an uphill struggle but it ain’t easy either.
Over the past few days I have been thinking about how my ex husband’s involvement in our kid’s lives is unfair. He gets to swoop in and be super dad when he wants to, take vacations when he wants to, cancel on evenings or weekends when he wants to and until recently pay child support when he wanted to and I am left filling in the blanks. I am not claiming to be super mom and I don’t begrudge any of my time with my children. I love them more than life itself. It just grates on me that he is allowed these freedoms and allowed to be absent from their lives. And I know my story isn’t the only one that sounds like this. There are thousands of women and men that can claim this as their story.
Tonight I was reminded why I made the decision to be the “full custodial parent” regardless of who he decides to be for them. With my son, trying on his new footie pajamas as he screamed “they are air tight!” and my daughter climbing all over my sister proclaiming to be “Super Manny” both with smiles. Happy. Safe. Blessed. And finally at home and at peace. I realized in that moment, it truly is a wonderful life …
